What is The Enneagram?

The word stems from the Greek word ennea (nine) and grammos (a written symbol).  You just pictured the dad from My Big Fat Greek Wedding didn’t you?

Back to the question- The nine-pointed Enneagram symbol is used to represent nine distinct strategies for relating to one’s self, others and the world.   Each one of these types has a different pattern of thinking, feeling and acting that comes from a deeper inner motivation or view.

How does The Enneagram Relate to Me?

I find it absolutely fascinating that answering a few questions I can get insight on my deeper inner thoughts and feelings.  To put it differently, I can better understand the answers to why I do things, feel things in situations.  It’s not that the test told me I was something that I didn’t know, it is that it said here are your tendencies; this is where you have strengths and this is your weakness.

Once you understand your Enneagram type, you can then study other people’s and how you relate to them.  What you perceive one way someone else does totally different.  It can help you see it from their point of view.

Do you ever find yourself feeling like you’re being held back from creating the life you want because of fear and self-doubt? Feeling like you want to improve but don’t know where or how to begin? The Enneagram can help you understand and create a roadmap that best works for you to reach your goals and gain confidence.  That being said, it’s not an excuse.  “Oh well, I’m this way  because I’m a (insert Enneagram Type).”  Once you understand the type there are ways and methods to help you learn how to best strengthen those areas of weakness.

How I found Enneagram Personality Test

It’s funny how scary accurate it can be.  My sister had taken the test online and told me about it so I decided to give it a try. Because it nailed my personality, it also allowed me to look at the other types and relate them to people in my life which gave me a better understanding of the best methods of communication with those people.

My Top 3 types were: Type 5, Type 3, and Type 6.   My wings were 5w4 and 5w6.

Test Online

There are various test out there, I’ve taken a couple and they gave me the same conclusions.  The ones that I used were free.  There’s The FAST Enneagram Testas well as Your Enneagram Coach.  There is also a paid test ($10) through Enneagram Institute.

The Nine Types

1. The Reformer- the rational and idealistic type, principled, purposeful, self-controlled.
2. The Helper- the caring and interpersonal type, generous, people-pleasing
3. The Achiever (or Motivator)-the success oriented and pragmatic type, adaptable, excelling
4. The Creative (or Individualist)- the sensitive and withdrawn type, dramatic, temperamental
5. The Investigator (or Thinker)- the intense and cerebral type, innovative, perceptive
6. The Loyalist (or Skeptic)- the committed and security oriented type, responsible, engaging,
7. The Enthusiast (or Generalist)- the extroverted and spontaneous type, versatile, acquisitive
8. The Challenger (or Leader)- the powerful and dominating type, self-confident, decisive
9. The Peacemaker- the easy going and self-effacing type, reassuring, complacent, receptive.

It’s common to see some of yourself in all nine types, although one should stand out as be the closest to yourself.

Enneagram Wings

Not only do you have your main type, but it has been found that usually you will have characteristics of one of the types that lie adjacent to your main type.  This is known as a “wing.” For example, you may be a type 5 and have a wing of a 4 or 6. This would be shown as a “5w4” and “5w6.” If you do not have a dominant wing, it is said that the wings are balanced.

Enneagram Instagram Accounts to Follow

Your Enneagram Coach Instagram– This Instagram account has a lot of good information and post about supporting other types.  It focuses especially on marriages.

Social Enneagram– This Instagram account is all about conversation!  There is tons of helpful and insightful information.  Definitely a favorite to check out!

Enneagramandcoffee– This is another favorite account with lots of great information.  Including…. Disney Princess Enneagrams!! Yes, I said Disney Princess!

It’s amazing how it can help you better understand yourself and the people you interact with. Enneagram is a fantastic way to help you do that!  What’s your type?

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Welcome to Kindergarten, It’s OK Mama

You take a deep breath and then exhale as you look at the enrollment paper for Kindergarten.  Has it really been five years?  Really?  “Wasn’t I just sleep deprived because you were nursing every two hours?” you think to yourself.  Now suddenly, it feels as though you’re on a rollercoaster with twist, turns, and drops that make you feel like you’ll lose your lunch. Slow down Mama.

Kindergarten is exciting and scary all at the same time.  This is your baby’s chance to make friends, learn new things, and grow. It’s scary because it causes us to question ourselves and abilities.  Did I teach you what you need to know to be prepared? Did you get too much screen time? Was I too strict with the screen time and now you won’t relate to something the other kids bond over?  Why didn’t I read to you more? Are you going to sit and listen to the teacher? Lord, please don’t let them call me. All of these things or questions like them will probably go through your mind.  Trust me, there is a wide variety of emotions you may find yourself going through.

The list for kindergarten changes it seems every year.  The current trend seems they are expected to know their colors, numbers to 10 and how to write their name.  You see the list and feel overwhelmed. Maybe you’ve tried your absolute best to teach them to write their name and it’s just not happening.  I’ve been there!  I tried, bought handwriting books, did everything I could think of to encourage them to do it and – negative. It was a fight and even then it didn’t turn out. As life would have it, they go to school and come home with their name written on paper. ( <–THIS SERIOUSLY HAPPENED)“Look at what I did Mommy!” they say proudly.  You aren’t sure if you want to hug them or go scream into a pillow but ultimately, you are happy they did it.

Keep that in mind as you prepare your little one for kindergarten.  Some lessons don’t look like they are sticking but they are. They are getting it.  Consistency and love are key to this journey that you are on.  Easier said than done, but it’s true.

I was so so sad when my kids started kindergarten.  It was especially hard with my youngest.  I had to put on my happy face and show my excitement thought because I didn’t want them to dread it or think they should feel bad for growing up. I wanted them to look forward to new adventures, even though it was hard for me too.  My kids are pretty attached to me, for instance, I walk to the garage and within thirty seconds, one of them is looking for me like an alarm has gone off.  When it came to school though, they were like “peace out!”  and confidently walked in to take it on.   I was a little mad (hey I’m just being honest) but so proud at the same time.

Preparing For Kindergarten

Here are some things that you can help your child with prior to and during Kindergarten to help them along.

Responsibilities for Kids 5+

A great way to help your child prepare for Kindergarten is to give them some responsibilities.  This helps them in being helpful, following directions and boost their self-esteem when they look at their accomplishments.

• Some ideas may include
• Hanging up their towel
• Cleaning their room
• Feed pets

Developing and Improving Fine Motor Skills

This is the smaller movements that occur in the wrist, hands, fingers, feet and toes.  It involves things such as picking up objects and writing carefully. Helping a child develop fine motor skills is an important aspect to their learning.  It’s as easy as giving them crayons and paper to draw on.  Let them practice writing, drawing simple pictures or self-portraits. Even just scribbling around on paper.

Understood.org has 6 Fine Motor Skills Activities for Kidsthat includes fun things like playing with putty!

Developing and Improving Gross Motor Skills

There is a Washington Post article on getting your child ready for kindergartenthat is really good.  It mentions giving them plenty of unstructured outdoor play.  Allowing them to run, jump, imagine and create.  It helps them to understand their bodies and abilities, practicing balance as well as gaining strength.  A positive side effect of this is, they’ll probably sleep well at night with that too!

Parenttoolkit.com has some great tips on gross motor skills for kindergarten.

Practicing Math and Numbers

Counting as you go up stairs, or how many m&m’s they get are fun ways to introduce numbers and counting to them.  You can show them the concepts of addition and subtraction and it doesn’t feel like ‘work’ to them.

Encouraging and Fostering Independence

Bathroom Stalls

Things like shutting the bathroom door/bathroom stall so they can go potty.  I’m not saying send them in a public restroom alone; I’m saying let them go into the stall itself and wait of the other side.  You’d be surprised at how many kids have no idea they need to shut the stall.  Then again, it’s just not something they’ve ever had to do so they don’t necessarily think about it.

Opening foods

Let them proactive opening their own chips, or fruit snacks.  They will be in a cafeteria full of other kids and while I’m sure there will be adult supervision when you have four classes of kids to help someone is going to get stuck waiting.  It’s good to help them learn before hand.

Putting Things Away

I totally get that sometimes, it is just easier and faster to do it yourself.  It is still good though to take the time and have them put away their things that have been taken out.  It’s also a good a idea to remind them of things such as pushing in a chair when they leave the table.

More Resources To Help With Preparing For Kindergarten

For those of you who have kindergartners starting next year, there’s a great site Teachmama.com that has an article on summertime prep for Kindergarten(which of course can be used anytime).  It includes a lot of really great resources and “do this by” suggestions!

Another great post is from themeasuredmom.com on Kindergarten Readinesswhere she explains it is all about balance and fun ways to tie in learning!